Part 2 - I posted about checking on your strong friend in relation to the suicide of Kate Spade and this is just as much of a reminder to me. Whilst you may know people or can see people struggling, others can look like on the surface to be gliding through life, confident and happy, what’s going on underneath? Yes it’s hard sometimes, don’t think about how it is for you otherwise no one will ever say anything! make it about them and not you but just listen, it’s just the first step, you don’t have to fix them just be, listen and acknowledge. Don’t say things you don’t mean but also don’t brush off what they’re saying. I can’t relate to mental health struggles as such but grief is pretty rubbish and it has brought on some anxiety and fear of flying. I know plenty of people that do and I know you do too. I have definitely found strength in numbers, 3 or 4 rocks, well more like boulders! and for the murder and manslaughter team at the Foreign Office who are carrying the investigation where the police have been lacking, a good few others that just acknowledge too! I still really struggle with the fact that are some people that didn’t even send a generic, sorry for your loss at the beginning!! and to be honest I’m dreading the 3 year mark next Wed as I know it will probably be the same people. The thing is when it happens, the firsts are ok but then the 2nd and then the 3rd it’s just another year for some people and some people genuinely think you should be over it by then. It’s just so different and some people have just forgotten. It’s never too late to acknowledge. Right, this has taken me ages but sometimes getting these thoughts out there is the best way to deal with it and I find I have to be just real about these incredibly tough situations, will save the rest for the blog! 🙈 as too much to cover but let’s keep reaching out, keep loving on people! #strengthinnumbers #whoareyoucheckingon #bereal #keepingitreal #justbe #letsreachout #loveonpeople #acknowledge
An encouragement to all! So today marks the day we got ‘that’ call 3 years ago, 3!! 🙄 that changed our lives in the most raw and shocking way. Before the to do lists and work later on, I went to a fitness class and then pulled up at the creek near to where I live and just stopped, actually stopped, just being (as I’m learning that despite the ‘oh quick on to the next thing to do’ you benefit far greater) and had a moment of reflecting, praying and meditating. I looked out on the water slowly rippling, a slight breeze but glorious sunshine. Then I saw a flock of ducks swimming past! they were all moving together very neatly, gliding almost effortlessly, v confident and knew exactly where they were heading, straight ahead, not one of them stopping or going in another direction, yet underneath it’s far from gliding, they’re feet going super fast and probably pretty rapid breathing and some spluttering. I felt the words ‘strength in numbers’ came to me and although I felt this was relevant to our family situation it could be for others too. So, stay with me!.....our situation was being told my brother Georgie, had been brutally attacked on the American/Mexican border, 4 days prior to that on the 18th, phone call from my Mum who had just had a call herself from the Foreign Office on the 22nd, and he died on the 27th June, he spent 9 days on life support from the 18th to the 27th June, so this period always brings back reminders or triggers although I’ve done ‘well’ just a few thoughts but the thing I always think of is when my Dad arrived in Mexico and having to ‘view’ his son having died half an hour before! I am saddened at the ever increasing other situations that I feel are around me just this week alone, more suicides, shootings, mental health struggles and families being separated on the American borders too! I did a video a while back now about reaching out and I’ve wanted to do another one but kept putting it off but the timing just seems so fitting. My question is who are you checking on? TBC....
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CCCapers Otis,Murphy ,Nelly and Roxy walking at Devoran😎👍 https://www.facebook.com/100003390248232/posts/1634339703355689/
I can't actually remember the last time this happened 😌
CCCapers Otis,Nelly and Roxy walking at Devoran 😎👍 https://www.facebook.com/100003390248232/posts/1627050490751277/